You’ve psyched yourself up to pop the question to the lady in your life; you’ve got the romantic plans in place, and you have a dazzling platinum engagement ring tucked away safe, but how do you know she will actually say ‘yes’ when you ask her to marry you? Here are some sure-fire signs to look out for:
Have you discussed marriage?
This one may seem a little obvious, but it’s the first thing to consider before you propose: Have you actually discussed marriage since getting together and what was her reaction?If she has always had her heart set on marriage, and she’s been planning her big day since she was little, then go ahead, it’s very likely that she will be thrilled with your proposal and will immediately say yes. If, however, she’s shown some uncertainty when discussing marriage, then now might not be the right time. If she’s not in the right place at the moment, or perhaps if she’s younger than you and not yet ready to marry, then you may need to wait a while. Nobody wants to hear a ‘no’ so it’s far better to wait until the time is right for both of you. If she has always had her heart set on marriage, and she’s been planning her big day since she was little, then go ahead, it’s very likely that she will be thrilled with your proposal and will immediately say yes.If, however, she’s shown some uncertainty when discussing marriage, then now might not be the right time.
If she’s not in the right place at the moment, or perhaps if she’s younger than you and not yet ready to marry, then you may need to wait a while. Nobody wants to hear a ‘no’ so it’s far better to wait until the time is right for both of you. If, however, she’s shown some uncertainty when discussing marriage, then now might not be the right time. If she’s not in the right place at the moment, or perhaps if she’s younger than you and not yet ready to marry, then you may need to wait a while. Nobody wants to hear a ‘no’ so it’s far better to wait until the time is right for both of you.
Is she over her ex?
Does her ex frequently pop up in conversation? Or is the ex-old news? As long as her last love is well and truly out of the picture, she will be far more likely to give you her hand in marriage. If she’s still hung up on her last relationship, she’s not going to want to give up the hope of rekindling that old flame.
Do you live together?
If you live together already then you will have a pretty good idea of whether you can see yourselves together in, say, 10 years’ time. If you live in happy harmony, with no major issues, then you should be fine for the long haul. If you’ve been living together just a short while though, and you’re already at each other’s throats, then it’s unlikely that an engagement will fix things.On the other hand, if you have a wonderful relationship, but you don’t yet live together, there are still signs to look out for when she comes over: Does she bring you home-made food?
Does she offer to do your washing or start buying things for your place? If she does any of these things, then she’s ‘nesting’ and therefore likely to accept your proposal. On the other hand, if you have a wonderful relationship, but you don’t yet live together, there are still signs to look out for when she comes over: Does she bring you home-made food? Does she offer to do your washing or start buying things for your place? If she does any of these things, then she’s ‘nesting’ and therefore likely to accept your proposal.
Has your relationship remained consistent with no breakups?
Have you had a really rocky relationship with breaks and break-ups? If you have then, as mentioned above, an engagement is unlikely to patch everything up. If you’ve always been loyal to one another though, and you’ve been able to work through your disagreements, then there’s every chance that she’ll be happy to take it to t
he next level.
Is she at ease in the relationship?
Is she completely comfortable in the relationship and with you? Is she able to be herself? And does she allow you to be who you are? As long as she doesn’t exhibit any signs of doubt, either verbally or through the way she behaves, then you should be safe to ask for her hand in marriage and get the answer you’re looking for.
Do you share the same life values?
If you’re going to make the ultimate commitment to one another, and spend your lives together, then it’s vital that you have the same values. After a few years of marriage, you don’t want to suggest starting a family only to have her say that she doesn’t want children. Equally, you want to ensure you’re both on the same page when it comes to finances and where you want to spend your life together. If one of you wants to go abroad, and the other wants to stay in the UK, then it’s not going to work out. If you both know that you share the same values, then you’re on the right road to a happy engagement.